In Recovery From Being An “Instant Child”
Have you heard the phrase, “Instant Child”?
I confess, it is a label that has been applied to me. I am fairly patient with others but not so much with myself. I want what I want; when I want it. Sometimes I get what I want quickly but usually I have to calm down and wait like everyone else.
Creating, owning, and continuing to develop a business is absolutely not an endeavor for an unreformed “instant child”; therefore, I declare myself in recovery.
I am recovering from the desire to get from here to there without traveling through the middle terrain. I am learning that the middle is the juiciest part of the journey.
I am recovering from the desire to have what I want given to me. Working for what I want is proving to be much more satisfying.
I am recovering from complaining about what is not within my grasp instantly. Either relaxing into the waiting or jumping up and creating it myself is helping me to develop a new emotional and even physical stamina.
I am recovering from feeling as though I have failed if my ideas do not come to fruition as fast as I planned. I am learning that taking smaller steps actually gets me where I want to go at a rate that I can handle and stay sane.
This list could go on but I am sure you know what I am saying. If we want something enough, we must allow for the passing of time. We must allow ourselves to relax while waiting. We must make the space for creation. Adults know that delayed gratification is worth the wait. It takes a long while for children to learn that things that they get instantly are rarely of high quality, but eventually they learn that there are many things that are worth the wait.