What Does It Mean To Relax?
Do you ever get tired of hearing, “Just relax?” I actually say it to myself all the time, and I say it to others more often than they would like. It can probably be put in the category of overused words. You know, the words that have lost their gravitas; words like “love” or “inspiring.” I am sure you can think of some yourself.
What does it mean? What does it really mean?
Well, as crazy as it sounds, I don’t know. Supposedly, we are “relaxed” when our breathing is slow, our muscles are loose, and our body feels calm. Our mind drifts in a blissful state. We are “relaxed” when our mind is quiet and we feel safe. I also think it helps to have a body that has done an adequate amount of activity and all our survival needs are met.
Total relaxation is a worthy goal, and it involves “surrender,” which is a word I struggle with. Sometimes, when I say it to myself, I do relax; then other times, it makes me feel like I am giving up too much of myself. My mind can get all caught up in analyzing the word itself. My mind is a “monkey mind” as they say in the Buddhist tradition.
I have not conquered it and that is why I say that I don’t know what it means to be totally relaxed. I do know that I feel closer to total surrender when my emotions have been expressed fully and honestly. I feel better when my body is satisfied. I feel better after a good cry or a hearty laugh. A great massage helps too. Listening to a soothing voice or music can put me in an easier space as well.
To be “relaxed” to me means being peaceful -- body, mind, and spirit. It is easier said than done for most of us. Nonetheless, I know it is possible, therefore, I will continue to meditate, exercise, eat right, and feed my soul. I know that the glimpses of true peace will multiply. I will be able to create that calm space within myself. I am not giving up! I am learning that my mind is only a tool to be used at the bidding of my higher consciousness. It is not the ruler of me. I am learning to lay it down when it has done it work for the day.
My day is over now. I am gently and softly allowing my mind to rest in the knowledge that I can pick it up tomorrow. I wish the same for you.